This might not be the newest Bustle article, but as I have been for a while on a bit of a blogging hiatus I did not get to share that one with you yet.
Amazing Babes breaking rules
This great article is once again listing a lot of amazing plus size babes. This time these babes are sharing with you their favourite rules to break. But don’t worry you won’t hear “wearing a striped top” for the four-hundred-sixteenth time. These points deal with bigger things…But have a look for yourself what I mean(to read the full articles for each rule check out the full piece)
Here are some examples of the rules to break and some of the amazing babes I had the honour to mentioned in one list with!
As said above check out Bustle to see the rest of the amazing 15 babes and which rules they will and have been breaking. Not to forget, for each rule there is an additional statement giving you some additional background on why or how we are or have been breaking these rules. Thank you Bustle for the honour of mentioning me alongside so many awesome girls.
What is your favourite rule to break?
Like always I would love to hear from you! What rule do you like to break? Or is there a rule in the list you’d love to break but are still trying to muster up the confidence? I am looking forward to hear your thoughts and about your rebellious acts!
My other half and I were lucky enought to be invited to Amour at Cirque for the Valentines Night .
Cirque is a relatively new burlesque club that has recently opened it’s doors in Manchester in a lovely victorian building.
Cirque has a really great atmosphere, some nice cocktails, great tunes to dance to, combined with some sexy and well choreographed burlesque entertainment. A great place for a night out.
Cocktails, Drinks & Refreshments
The Location
The Dancefloor
In the small hours of the night and still going strong. 🙂
The Show
What Do You Think?
How have you spent Valentines Day? Have you been to Cirque or do you plan going or do you maybe know some other great burlesque venues?
If you are looking for last minute affordable plus-size valentines outfit then here is my oersonal plus size wish list coming to your rescue along with “last orders” information to make sure you still get your dream outfit in time.
What do you think? Do you have a favourite?
Last Orders?
In order to receive your last minute outfit in time for valentines you need to order by:
Asos
Next Day Delivery: Friday 12.02. by 12pm, if you are willing to take some risk you might still be lucky if you order before 5pm on Saturday 13.02.
Missguided
Next Day Delivery: Friday 12.02. by 4pm
Sunday Delivery: Saturday 13.02 by 9pm
Boohoo
Weekend Delivery: Friday 12.02. by 8pm
Weekend Delivery: Saturday 13.03 by 7pm
Your Plans?
What are your plans for valentines day? Will you spend it with your loved one or go out with the girls, but most important, what will you be wearing?
Hello Internet, I have changed my hair colour again. This time it is purple & I am very much in love with it.
Many, Many Colours
Although it is probably not much of a surprise, anybody who may follow me knows that I do have a thing for changing my hair colours often. . Not to forget that I do have a thing for colours that are not the most natural.If you don’t yet feel free to have a browse through my past posts and I am sure you will notice that over the last few months I have collected quite a wide range of different colours.
Dyeing Tips Series
I am planning to write a bit more about this soon, giving you the best tips I have, from the bleaching to the dying and how you can same money, as there seems to be quite a bit of interest for this topic, while this is more of just a little colour update.
What This Purple Is Made Of
If you wonder where to get this purple, it does not come out of any bottle,as it is like almost all my hair colours self mixed from multiple dyes. This colour was mixed from a large portion of Conditioner, Bruised Violet, with a largish portion of Out Of The Blue with a dash of Directions Lilac and Atlantic Blue.
I was going for something more blue but I am more than happy with the result. I actually prefer this over the colour I was going for. The very best thing of this colour is actually that it goes perfect with my favourite MAC Lipstick – Up The Amp Amplified.
Exciting
Every time I dye my hair with a mix it is quite exciting to wait to find out how the colour is turning out, as the colour in the bowl never quite looks like the colour on your hair, but with experience you do get a good feel for it. The other advantage is that this colour is not permanent and always can be dyed over soon… 😉
Using Up My Bleach London Stash
For this dying cycle I wanted to use some of my Bleach London Dyes because I was planning to move over to La Riche Directions. Don’t get me wrong there is nothing which Bleach London, they are good dyes and I have made good experiences with them, I just personally prefered Directions and in particular their range of colours, but after how this colour has turned out I might stick withBruised Violet & Out Of The Blue For A While.
Unfortunately you can’t just pick Directions up at Boots, like you can with Bleach London, you will need to get them online . But this is still simple enough as Amazon does offer the full range, many even over their prime service through which you get unlimited free next day delivery: here 30 days free prime – just don’t forget to cancel, if you do not want to sign up for a year.
A Few Tips
While I want to save how-to’s for a later post there are a I essential tips I would like to give you, just in case you are considering to do something similar to your hair.
It is always best to leave the bleaching to a professional, if you decide to do it yourself, educate yourself well about the process and substances before you do it.
Regarding the actual colour start simple and search online for example images of how it has turned out on the hair of others.
Maybe abstain from mixing for now, consider to go for the colour out of the box.
You can control the strength of the colour by how much conditioner you mix in.
You can always increase the experimenting with experience.
I had not many things go wrong, but it has happened to me. Reduce the chance of that happening to you, And as a last tip, that is something you do not want to have happen to you without some backup colour to dye.
What Do You Think?
Would you go for an unnatural colour? What colour would it be? And what colour would you like to see me wear?
Ok girls it is time for another rant. I know I am ranting quite a lot here recently but there is just every other day some thoughtless body shaming or other stupidity going on. So recently I just really have to vent… a lot.
Its Instagram, Again
So what has happened this time? This time it’s Instagram, again. After banning the female nipple, pubic hair peeking our of a bathing suit, women on their period and not to forget being one of the breastfeeding nazis (read more here). Not to forget to time and again take down bra selfies of women above a size 10 while those of skinny women are fine. It is now shame to get shame people based on their bodies once again, as they have now put the word #curvy on their blacklist, which will not allow you to search for this hashtag anymore.
So when you as a larger lady post your next cute outfit on Instagram you might need to reconsider what hashtag you want to use if you would like to enable people to find you… Words you can choose now I guess are:
fat
chubby
chunky
corpulent
rotund
overweight
By the way #fatf*** also still works, in case you would like to use thatLovely isn’t it?
Why #Curvy Matters For Plus Positivity
But let’s be honest most terms have very negative connotations. The word curvy is a word that finally was a positive word, a word that enabled someone that will have struggled with a very negative body image for a long time finally to start looking at themselves in a more positive light
The debate of what to call your body type when you have a few more kilos on you has been going on for quite a while. And admittedly some #curvy women might be a little more round or boxy and some people really get weirdly angry about people that do not sport a traditional hourglass shape and call themselves curvy.
Does this really matter so much to the rest of the world that the word curvy is getting a second definition if it helps a fair amount of people gain a better and more loving self image. While I personally have made my peace with the word fat and have no problem calling myself a fatty at times, it is still hurtful for many. I am sure the word curvy will have contributed to giving a lot of women out there a positive self image, they can identify with.
Official Reason For Ban – Nudity
So why have they banned it. A spokesperson from Instagram apparently stated that a lot of the images tagged with the hashtag #curvy contained a lot of nudity.
Just the fact that a lot of the images that contained this hashtag apparently also contained a lot of nudity to blanket ban it, while a lot insulting and bullying terms can still readily be used by the trolls out there to put people down, that is just not a jhourglassshapeustification and a completely wrong approach.
This Is What Instagram Still Allows
So let’s have a look at what Instagram in it’s endevour to reduce nudity still allows: like #dildo, #sextoys, #asses, #pornos, #bigfatass, #titsandass and #pornstargay, these are fine but #curvy clearly has to go.
Next to these sexual terms Instagram also allows you to search for an array of negative and insulting terms regarding overweight that are not only containing a lot of nudity (depending on the specific term in question) but also are used to bully people some examples are #obese, #fatf***, #fatbitch and #fatpig. Yay for Instagrams priorities.
#obese
So now let’s have a look at what happens on the other side of the weight range, ins specific: what happens when you search for keywords like skinny or thin. Shouldn’t those attract pretty much the same type of pictures and shouldn’t Instagram react in the exact same way here? Well yes to question 1 (some nudity here as well) but a big fat no to question 2.
Instagram obviously is aware that that these pictures are containing an amount of nudity as they warn you when you when you click on the hashtag that the results contain graphic content, so they are aware of the nudity here. However these terms along with other searchable terms like #ana and #mia are known trigger terms for eating disorders, which Instagram also seems to be aware off and solves with a link to an eating disorder site, but you can still go through and admire the thigh gaps and see all the images of self harm, diet tips and food diaries.
So bottom line is they do allow sexual terms, derogatory terms all aspects of the other side of the weight range, despite being aware with all the issues connected with those terms, while a term that has had body positive effects for so many people gets straight away banned? Wait can somebody please explain that for me? I am not sure I understand their logic.
Why Not The Same Type Of Warning?
For some clarification. I am not asking to ban keywords like skinny, but rather ask for same treatment for the word curvy. Couldn’t they have slapped another one of those content warnings on it? If you like even with a link to a nutrition page for help with weight issues if someone at Instagram is worried about the health of the posters.
Not sure about their agendy
The bottom line is, I am not quite sure what their agenda is here. I can’t believe that the ultimate goal was to decrease nude pictures and their accessibility. Firstly because of all the offensive terms out there that I can’t believe they have not approached before this one but mainly because there is a very simple and targeted solution if they really wanted to target nude pictures.
If It Is About Nudity Why Not Use Nudity Detection Software?
Monitor the keyword with a program scanning for images containing nudity would be the perfect solution… Captain Obvious. Yes these programs do exist, they were made to speed up checking computers of suspects for illegal pornography and the way they work is scanning images for flesh tones (a little more complicated but that is the bottom line). These programs are so good, they can do this even for black and white pictures.
Apply this, with a few employees who check the pictures that it spits out as blocked. If you want to go with even less effort directly block the images or warn the users that their image is going to be blocked within a few hours if they don’t submit it for a review and boom only those are are submitted for being falsely detected need to be reviewd even more time saved. There you go, a fairly non complicated and targeted solution found.
An Alternative Movement Is Already There
Luckily the body positive movement is alive and well and there is already a protest movement forming within Instagram that have come up with an alternative term. So you don’t need to use the words from the list above, use the tag #curvee. There are already more than 500 images with this tag and they are getting more by the minute.
What Do You Think
So what do you think about the #curvy search ban? What do you think about Instagrams approach and will you miss the term or do you think it won’t make a big difference? I would love to hear from you.
