In June I am invited to another lovely English wedding. In fact actually to the wedding of my lovely friend who is and was important in so many little introductions to proper British culture and cultural experiences.
Like she pointed out in her comment she left on my About Me Page, she is responsible for my deep love of Doctor Who and she also worked with me in one of my first proper jobs in the UK, helping me navigate through the very peculiar British office politics she also invited me to my very first English Hen Do.
Recently there has been another big one of those big cultural experiences she invited me to her hen do. I have to admit, initially I was a bit afraid it would involve plastic penises or similarly cringe worthy things but a classy lady as Jess is this was not the case. We all were given our obligatory hen do sashes and obviously Jess was wearing her “learning bride” L together with a veil, but that just is a most.
Her hen do took us first to the Hard Rock Cafe, where we had some really nice burgers and the main party then took place here in Manchester in the Birdcage. This was also my very first drag show, so ultimately I had two firsts in a day. The show was great and it was fun to watch in the dancing breaks between the show pieces how many girl in the audience tried out their best on the stripper pole that was provided, getting bolder the further the night had progressed.
Although I have to admit that the night was not 100% plastic genital free. As the audience was full of hen dos that either wore suggestive costumes or had straws in a design you can imagine. For some reason there was also a guy dressed up as a traffic light wearing a traffic cone on his head… but I guess that is the normal audience in the birdcage and it actually really adds to the atmosphere.
So ultimately it was a truly special night with some lovely ladies and some great memories.
For this I wore one of my lovely Lady Vintage Dresses. To be honest I have had this dress for a while as it has been slightly too tight when I bought it, but I loved it just too much to send it back. Now that I have lost a (very) few pounds as I was unfortunately struck by a very uncomfortable lower back pain (every pound my back does not need to carry helps.), the dress fits a lot better and so has seen it’s very first night out.
Like usually on this kind of occassions I have forgotten to take a proper picture but I might take a quick one at a later point and might either post a little addition to this post or just let you see it on my facebook page.
The dress is unfortunately not available on the Lady Vintage site anymore but especially now that they have launched “Lady Voluptuous” they always have a great range of plus-size vintage dresses and it always worth checking them out.
So now the big next step is choosing an outfit for the upcoming wedding and I really do not do well in deciding what to wear. So I guess very soon I will provide you with few options and maybe you can help me by letting you know which ones you like most. I am actually even playing with running a Facebook vote or similar.
A few weeks ago France has made uber-skinny models illegal. Yes you have heard right. As a part of a clamp down on anorexia France decided to outlaw super-skinny models and so any designer sending a model down the runway that the government deems too skinny risks a hefty fine or maybe even prison time.
The french fashion scene is in uproar and everything else but happy about this and to be honest, neither am I. You all know I am all but happy with the current “standard of beauty” in the mainstream fashion industry, portraying being super-skinny as the only desirable body type. But outlawing a body type? Seriously?
The moment you think we are actually making steps forward concerning body positivity and size equality and then somebody does something like this in the name of fighting anorexia and unhealthy body image. The French have, in the name of the good cause come to the following legislation:
“The activity of model is banned for any person whose Body Mass Index (BMI) is lower than levels proposed by health authorities and decreed by the ministers of health and labor.”
These levels proposed are apparantly a BMI of 18.5 In practice this means that the model will need to present some sort of certificate that her BMI lies at 18 or above if she wants to work somewhere.
BMI? Are you serious? So not only are they taking body shaming to a whole new level by actually outlawing a body type, they are also using the worst and most unreliable measurement for this, that was never intended to be used as indication for an individual persons health.
BMI was never designed as a tool for judging any individual person’s weight—either by physicians or the general public, says Timothy Church, a professor of health at Pennington Biomedical Research Center […] but because of its straightforward math and distinctive categories [..] it soon took off.
To Keys’ [the inventor of the BMI] credit, he never intended for physicians or insurance companies to use this equation—but BMI was just too perfect. Because it was simply a math equation, it was quicker, easier, and cheaper to use than more direct and accurate measures—like the underwater weighing test […] and the skin fold measurements […]. – Mens Health “The Truth About BMI”
The BMI neither takes into account the difference of Muscle vs Fat weight nor how different ‘frames’ and builds can influence a persons health/look at a certain BMI.Obviously, the larger the BMI is the larger are the chances that this person is fat and the smaller the BMI is the larger the chances are that the person is unhealthily skinny, but that is literally all that it is.
Looking at extremes an athlete could for example have the same BMI as a severely obese person.
Looking at not so extreme cases, someone could fight overweight all their lives at a BMI of let’s say 27, when in reality they are perfectly healthy…
If you are one of those weight trolls who now wants to start in a rant that I want to believe that I am an athlete, you can put the keyboard down. I am under no illusion that I am a secret athlete. I know that my personal BMI is in the unhealthy range and yes, that I am fat.
But let’s get back to the actual topic. Where the inaccuracy matters most is in the less extreme areas, where it will make someone over- or underweight by only a few points. This simply can not be accurate. Not using this form of measurement. So setting exact ranges at the 0.5 level of what is ‘acceptable” or even ‘ILLEGAL’, well that is not just wrong but crazy.
Where I Agree With The French
I do agree with the French in one way though. We do need to do something against the wrong body image in fashion, fight anorexia but this is, in my opinion, really (really) not the way. This is just body shaming 2.o.
And while might be one subgroup in the plus-size community that might applaud this, the “Us Against Them”-crowd, that type that might have pulled or enjoyed the stupid “Skinny Bird Watching” stunt or that might post pseudo inspiring messages online that are nothing else but body shaming repackaged like for example: “real women have curves” or something similarly stupid.
However, things would not end there. Anyone who thinks only a little further knows who or what would be next after a law like this. After the skinny models have been banned from the catwalks, Jamelia will get her wish and anyone on either side of the ‘extreme’ is now not allowed to shop on the high street anymore and any TV program showing women with a BMI over 25 will also be fined or the director thrown in prison, as noone should believe that people like this exist, let alone could be happy.
Diversity Instead Of Shaming
I believe if we want to fight anorexia and in my opinion also obesity we should not upgrade to body shaming 2.0 but rather support true body diversity. (Check out Models of Diversity). Making people feel like they have to strive after some crazy number, may it be a BMI label or a size 0 to be attractive, for many women ends up in one of either two extremes. Anorexia/Bulimia destroying themselves striving for that goal or on the other side extreme unhappiness & low self-worth which in many cases results in loss of the desire/strength of taking care of oneself and leads to comfort eating and additional weight gain.
So as said above instead of upgrading our body shaming, we should promote body diversity as much as we can and this should not only concern weight, but also disabilities and colour. You can look however the fuck you want and that is no-ones concerns but yours. Your body is a dictatorship, no democracy. There is no vote on how you are “allowed” to look.
Other Ideas For A Law?
If France HAD to pass a law like this following their goal to battle anorexia an idea might have been maybe to stipulate a minimum difference between the models on the runway. I am spitballing here. I know the idea is not perfect.
In my suggestion the basic idea would be to request a difference of BMI points smaller when only using few models, increasing with the number of models up to a certain point. So for example 5 BMI points when using 2 models, 7 points difference when using 3 models and 10 points difference when using 5 or more models for a show.
There are a few issues that would come with this, it would complicate things, making it more difficult to find the right models and secondly using a standard clothing size for fashion shows would not be possible anymore. Ultimately I did not expect to come up with the perfect solution. However any solution that would be effective would make life in the fashion world rather more complicated than easier but I do believe we should probably value diversity more than convenience.
Finding the right evening- or occasion dress is really not easy for me. Particularly when I have set my heart on maxi dress, as I am not only struggling with the plus-size aspect but I am also 5’9 (1.75m).
Most so called “floor length” maxi dresses end up rather ankle length on me and heels are almost always a no go, as even if the dress is a bit longer it usually still leaves the dress at this neither here nor there length. To me this is a real shame, as while I don’t need the heels for the height, they do give my posture and real boost and accentuate all the good bits of my figure.
FatPhRocks – Plus-Size Dresses For Tall Girls
So the guys from FatPhRocks really can be a godsend. They are a dress shop specialising in plus-size dresses for tall girls. They offer day & evening dresses, up to a size 28 in a very affordable price range, with most dresses ranging between the sizes £25 and £50. At the moment they are still a fairly small shop, but they still have good range to choose from.
screenshot of FatPhRocks showing part of the range
In particular I really like their single colour floor length dresses in almost all cuts offered and especially that they offer a choice of dresses that either do or don’t cover your arms/chest area if you are looking for this kind of thing but also sleeveless dresses that expose more of your chest area if you are looking for that . The only thing I am personally not too much of a fan of in their range are some of the prints, but this is rather a matter of personal taste, who knows you might love those prints.
Overall I would recommend, if you are a taller lady like me, it will most likely be worth having a look yourself. The range is small but for that it offers some choices the bigger players don’t offer.
Trying The Dress
I chose the Eddie Dress In Purple*, a dress that is a bit more high-necked than most of the evening dresses that I have worn in the past, but I thought this might be a good choice, looking back at the last big evening dress I wore, where I ended up exposing a bit more of myself than I had wanted (you might remember).
But before I go on, let’s give you some more pictures of the actual dress, as we know picture says more than a 1000 words, so moving images should be even better, right?.
(thank god for gifs, helping me to make a complete fool out of me…)
Overall I am very happy with the dress. Finally a maxi-dress that is not only long enough but that also manages to contain my boobs, I knew it had to exist somewhere. Although, I had to get used to a bit to the neckline as it is some what in the middle, neither high nor low. But now looking at the pictures again after a few days I have to say I have grown to like it.
Please excuse the “all over the place” lighting, I was experimenting with a new setup
The higher neckline is balanced out by the low back. While I do like this feature of the dress, the pictures do remind me every time that I am desperately waiting for the summer as I am in real need of at least a little bit of a tan.
The very first thing that I checked out though was the length. Within 5 minutes I had popped on the high heels to find out how it would work with those. And I have not just tested it with any small heels, but my impulse buy stunning but sky high Missguided sandals (usually I am more the kitten heel kind of girl)
I’d say for me the dress is the exact right length. It works with heels and still but if wearing it with flats it might touch the floor but will not be dragging over floor.
I Will Come Back
I am definitely happy with the dress and can’t wait for the next occasion to wear it out and for the next wedding that I will be going to the FatPhRocks shop will definitely be one of the shops I will be checking.
Do You Know Other Plus-Size Specialty Stores
For everyone that stands out in another way except for being plus-size, may it be being tall, short, having big feet or a large bust, knows how difficult it can be finding fitting clothing, as shops are rare.
So I have decided to compile a list of specialty plus-size shops and ranges. So if you are aware of any specialty shops, may it be petite, maternity or any speciality you can think of, pop a comment in the box down below.
But the fashion world turns fast and the plus-size fashion world is no exception. So over the last months it has become fairly quiet around Missguided, well at least in regards of plus-size.
The fast fashion company has so far only concentrated at the lower end of straight sizes (going up to 14). Their first plus size range was, by the looks of it, only a test range, if a strong one, with approx 70 lines in sizes only going up to a size 24 so far.
The big question here was if the brand after an enthusiastic launch would forget about their plus-size customer, like so many promising other brands have unfortunatelly done before, leaving the range as an token range for the fatties to avoid being called fat shaming.
February 2015: New Pieces – Without A Lot Of Noise
Fortunately this does not appear to be the case. Well, at least there are a few positive indicators that this time it might be different.
Unfortunately there is no complete new range or big overarching new style at the moment, but one thing I do have to credit Missguided for is that after running only a very few months, they have looked at demand and, like a good fast fashion retailer does, not only restocked as it was selling out but also put a little bit of effort in and improved/updated a few lines by adding new colour options
Let’s Have A Look At The Range Update
Some of the pieces they have renewed were the wrap dresses that were very popular after the launch and quickly sold out in many colours.
The wrap dresses have not only been repeated in the original colours that had sold out they are now also available in for example khaki and grey.
There are some lovely new midi dresses. The below dress on the left in the grid has been added in black and in the green and also some other completely new dresses.
Tie Waist Skirt
Another new addition to the collection is the tie waist skirt which is expected to be a big trend this spring. A skirt I could not resist buying already and that will be on my blog soon in an #OOTD.
This skirt is basically a skirt that pretending to have a shirt slung around the hips. Sounds a bit weird when trying to describe it, but I like the look.
Trends At The Same Time For Fatties AND Normalos
The tie waist skirt is one of the examples where Missguided is really really promising for the future. I am not necessarily talking abut the style itself but the timing of the delivery of the style. If you have a look around through the sizes, tie waist appears to be one of their big upcoming trends that they have heavily bought into across their straight sizes.
Unlike so many other retailers out there, Missguided is not waiting till at least next season to finally deliver a trend in a plus-size version, but is delivering it at the same time for us larger ladies as wekk as in straight sizes. Although admittedly they deliver this trend only in one style for 18+ while in almost uncountable styles for straight sizes, but it is a start.
Where is the SS15 range?
After having been unsure, when first launching the range in November, of how it would resonate with us fatties, they should now have a much better idea of who their plus-size customers are and what we like.
This does make me wonder even more why it is taking Missguided so long to get their Spring/Summer range out. With it being end of February they might be a bit late to the market. Although I am still holding up big hopes for a banging collection
Extra 40% Off Sale While We Are Waiting
While you are browsing through the new items don’t forget to have a quick look at the sale items, as for a very limited time you will be able to get 40% all sale items using the code EXTRA40.
What do you think?
Which one is your favourite? Are you calling some of the new pieces your own? And for which retailer can’t you wait to finally announce their new SS15 collection.
I am having a spring wardrobe clean out. So keep your eyes open I will be over the next few weeks selling quite a few lovely pieces that all still have many, many more wears in them that are looking for a new loving home.
Monochrome 60s Style Tunic/Dress
The first piece I am selling is this lovely Simply Be Tunic/Dress on ebay. It is a size 26 (EU56, US22) and as good as new.
The monochrome 60s style tunic has only been worn a handful of times and is currently in an auction on Ebay. It is part of the “Simply Be bepoke” range and looks amazing with leggings but is also long enough to be worn on it’s own as dress and looks great in both ways.
It is on sale on ebay. The auction will end on Sunday the 21st of February 7:30pm. To bid just drop by here.
Parting With My Wardrobe On Ebay
On the same ebay account you will soon also find all the other pieces hat I am going to part with, so keep checking back if you like my style.
You are not a size 24/26?
Most of the pieces that I will be selling are going to be a 24 (EU 52) or 26 (EU 54) but I also will have the one or other piece available in the Sizes 20 (EU 48) and 22.
A while back I was lucky enough to attend the Simply Be Spring/Summer Preview. This was an absolutely amazing event in an impressive London penthouse, involving some lovely wine, yummy canapés, a stunning new Spring & Summer collection and lots of lovely plus size blogger babes.
If you follow my Instagram you will have most likely been able to follow the events on this day as it happened and will already have gotten a glimpse into the new Simply Be collection, if not, even the more of a reason to follow me on Instagram.
Simply Be’s have by now even added a video of this preview day on their youtube channel so that you can get a first hand impression of the event in moving pictures if you pay enough attention you can even glimpse of me wearing one of my favourite Missguided dresses in this video.
My Favourite Trends & Pieces
While then these styles were merely a preview, these lovely pieces are now, bit by bit, making their way into the Simply Be online shop. A good occasion to give you a bit of a closer look at the collection and my favourites.
While I am not really a fan of this years florals I am very much in love with the the clean bright colours in an almost candy colour range in combination with clean strong cuts as well as the simple monochrome styles with a hint of 60s. And lastly not to forget I like the denim. For some reason it has recently not been easy to find a nice plus size denim jacket.
What is great about these swimsuits, at least some, is that Simply Be also thought of us busty ladies when designing them. Wearing a G-Cup I am simply not able to wear a “normal” swimsuit without proper cups and/or under-wires. My mom always called it “pancakes” what swimsuits without proper cups would do to a large bust. No desirable shape… The black mesh swimsuit is one of those good examples, as it contains fixed foam cups supporting and keeping the bust in shape.
My absolute favourite piece is the monochrome one piece below which will instantly transform you into a plus size bond girl.
But also the Bikinis are not to be scoffed at. After I made a great step of confidence and bought my very first Bikini last year (read more about this here) I might be buying Bikini number 3 and 4 this year…
What Is Your Favourite?
Which one is your favourite piece? Did you get one of these lovelies already