What You Should Not Wear… – Fashion Rules

Are you as tired as me of stupid rules about what we are allowed to wear or not? We all have come across rules or even lists of what we apparently should and should not wear. These rules can present themselves in so many different ways:

  1. “Passed Down Wisdom”: that has been passed down from woman to woman like I have been told so many times, that I should not wear stripes or patterns or that I should avoid short skirts, bodycon dresses or generally tight tops.
  2. School’s Dres Codes: Weird rules imposed by schools about what girls (and also boys) are allowed to wear, most of the time claiming the girls would be too much of a distraction to the boys in their leggings or skirts revealing irresistible kneecaps. This goes to so crazy lengths that girls have been sent home from school for wearing leggings. (1, 2, 3)
  3. Social media comments: Maybe you came across the beautiful picture of “What Laura Loves”  in a stunning jumpsuit on the Simply Be Facebook Page which was taken apart by mean commenters claiming she should not wear a jumpsuit as it was unflattering
  4. The Press: one of the most recent examples was the Oprah magazine stating that you should only wear a crop top if(AND ONLY IF as they repeat) you have a flat stomach… I already had my rant about this specific article here

Oprah, Crfop Tops Only For Flat Stomach

Simply be has recently put together an eye-opening list of all the confusing rules they came across…

Completely Arbitrary Or Even Plain False

These rules are completely arbitrary and even the assumptions they are based on are sometimes even plain false.  The myth for example that horizontal stripes make you bigger has been debunked in multiple studies. A 2008 study even found that horizontal stripes make you appear 6% thinner than in vertical stripes. Who decided what is flattering?

What Is So Wrong With Clothes That Don’t Slim Us Down?

Even if horizontal stripes would make you look fatter, what is so inherently wrong with that? Why are we so obsessed with “flattering”? Are we plus-size ladies and body-positivity lovers still so deeply convinced that  being big is such an awful thing that it needs to be concealed, hidden?

If we want to move plus size fashion to the next level we have to learn to step away from our obsession with “flattering” and “slimming”. I personally believe that one thing we have to learn is, that flattering is not a synonym to slimming.

Dress Codes – Often Demeaning For Both Genders

It is obvious that for school or the workplace we should all follow some common sense dress codes. Ultimately you just should not wear you clubbing clothes to your school or workplace.

However, a dress code that go so far as to ban leggings, the visibility of bra straps (tank tops/strappy tops) or similar are demeaning for both genders. These rules assume that boys would be unable of controlling themselves in the view of some ankles or a bra strap shame the girls for completely innocent clothes choices

What Can We Do?

When thinking about what we can do about those stupid rules and misconceptions there is one simple answer.  Break the rules, break them at every occasion you get, and be visible doing it. That way we can break down the expectations of us trying to stay invisible and to hide our rolls and extra pounds at all costs. Show your glorious body in whatever you like to wear!

Simply Be Project – Break The Rules

So when Simply Be shared with me their asked me if I wanted to participate in their recent project aiming to break those rules down following  their recent blog post about those rules, I was immediately in. They were so nice to supply me with some pieces from their line to go and break some rules. A project right after my liking.

Breaking the rules!

So here is a selection of outfits breaking all the rules I could think of featuring past outfits and the lovely dresses that i was supplied by Simply Be

Fat Girls Should Not Wear Maxi Dresses

Halloween Backdrops for photographyLace Trim Jersey Maxi Dress – Simply Be*

barefoot collage with shadowFatPhRocks  – Dress Eddie Dress In Purple*
Belt: 
Accessorize – Old Season
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Fat Girls Should Not Wear Short Dresses!

Asos Curve Black Peplum Dress

Club L Plus Size Lace Panel Peplum Dress – Asos Curve
Shoes – Deichmann
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Lisa in missguidedDress – Missguided
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Fat Girls Should Not Wear Tight Clothing

Boohoo Nadia Zip Front Dress & Embossed HoodieNadia Blue Front Zip Dress – Boohoo*
Plus Nadia Embossed Sleeeve Hoodie – Boohoo
Mid Heel Pumps Electric Blue – Ebay
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Fat Girls Should Not Wear Bikinis/Expose Their Stomachs

6zmbUZ5 (1)Elomi Swim Bra – Simply Be
Mary Of Sweden High Waisted Bikini Brief – JD Williams

Magisculpt Tropical Print Plus Size BikiniMagisculpt Tropical Bikini – Simply Be

Fat Girls Should Not Wear Busy Patterns

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Anna Scholz Print Peplum Dress – Simply Be
Gold Pumps – Deichmann
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338Dress – Simply Be*
Leggings – Simply Be

Fat Girls Should Not Wear Skinny Jeans


DSC04240-2Extreme Dip Back TopBoohoo
Body – Boohoo
Skinny Jeans –  very old season George at Asda
Stiletto Plateau Heels – Deichmann
Grey Clubmaster Glasses* – Specspost
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CpLV3jRKimono: Fringed Multi Tropical Print Sheer Kimono – Yours Clothing
Top: Black Ribbed Cotton VestYours Clothing
Denim Leggings: Simply Be sale item
Shoes: Deichmann sale item
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Fat Girls Should Not Wear Jumpsuits

DSC00711-MOTIONJumpsuit With Cold Shoulder – Asos Curve
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AaEU5jGlJumpsuit: New Look Inspire – Asos £16 (was £22.99)
Shoes: Missguided £24.99
Belt: Accessorize (Old Season)
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 Fat Girls Should Not Expose Their Upper Arms

B1peGasVintage Dress – Lady Vintage
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Vintage Dress – Lady Vintage
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Fat Girls Should Not Wear Crop Tops

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Skater Skirt –
Missguided (similar)
High Heels –
Missguided
Watch
Moto 360 – Motorola (Amazon)
GlassesSpecspost
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Final Words

What Do You Think?

Which “rule” is your personal pet hate? Do you have a favourite rule-breaking outfit? I would love to see it! Why do you think we are so obsessed with “flattering”? I would love to hear from you!

 

Lots of love

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I am Ms Manchester Curve 2016

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Ms British Beauty Curve

I am happy to announce that I have been named Ms Manchester Curve 2016 and that through that I will be representing Manchester this year in the annual Miss British Beauty Curve body positivity pageant.

 

I am proud to be representing Manchester and very flattered by the honour to have been selected for this title and I would like to thank my sponsors Nothing But Epic and Florentyna Dawn for believing in me and sponsoring me.

Trying On The Ms British Beauty Curve Crown For Size :)
Trying On The Ms British Beauty Curve Crown For Size 🙂

A Big Step For Me

As a woman who has struggled so many years with my own appearance this is a very important step for me and I am more than happy to be representing self love and the fact that beauty has no size.

In my life I have gone through dozens of diets always thinking that happiness might be around that corner only as soon as the scale would show that magical number that would put my BMI in the normal range.

Even when I  had lost more than 30 kilos (close to 5 stone, for my British friends), was fit enough to run a half-marathon and had more than healthy test results at the doctor,I still hated myself. Why? That is something I will describe in a little more detail in a future post.

Lisa Runs Halfmarathon In 2009

Don’t Put Your Life On Hold

The bottom line is that it took me a long time to understand that whatever the label in my clothes says and whatever my scales says is irrelevant. The idea that everything will suddenly be great once you reach a magic number in your clothes or your scale is wrong. By following this idea you will put your live on hold forever.

Be The Best Version Of Yourself

What matters personally for me, is striving every day to be the best version of myself, that I can be today; may that be in be in health, professionally or following my hobbies. And I am definately looking fabulous doing that!

Reaching More Women With This Message

I am very happy that the Miss British Beauty Curve will give me a platform to communicate this message to other women who might still be in the position of putting themselves down and waiting for their lives to start, that I was in before I realised I was worthy of self-love and to live my life.

And so are you beautiful girl! Go out there and have a killer day!

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Burlesque Valentines Day – A Night At Cirque

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My other half and I were lucky enought to be invited to  Amour at Cirque for the Valentines Night .

Cirque is a relatively new burlesque club that has recently opened it’s doors in Manchester in a lovely victorian building.

Cirque has a really great atmosphere, some nice cocktails, great tunes to dance to, combined with some sexy and well choreographed burlesque entertainment. A great place for a night out.

Cocktails, Drinks & Refreshments

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The Location

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The Dancefloor

 

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In the small hours of the night and still going strong. 🙂

The Show

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What Do You Think?

How have you spent Valentines Day? Have you been to Cirque or do you plan going or do you maybe know some other great burlesque venues?

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Blondes Have More Fun – Dyeing My Hair Blonde

Ladies And Gentlemen: My New Hair

Girl Geek In A Dress - now blond

 

I Can’t Count How Often I Changed My Hair Colourb

As you know I do like changing my hair colour but when I recently dyed my hair purple, I thought this would have been my last big colour change for a while. Purple was by far my favourite and I really had planned to stick with that for a while.

 

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Refreshing Roots Turned Into A Colour Change

I meant refresh my purple. At the time the purple had turned by now into a turquoisy blue with at least 8-10cm  dark roots. I thought it was best to give it a full rather than just the usual root bleach to avoid my hair turning even more patchy.

To my surprise I liked what I saw when I washed off the bleach.  I also never had never ever been blonde which made it all a whole lot more interesting. So I thought it might make sense to stay blonde for a while now that I had to bleach it anyway and ultimately I could always put purple back in my hair at a later point.

So Blonde It Is

So I decided to get an ash blonde toner. My hair had unfortunately a faint green undertone left in it while being a little lighter in the bottom than it was on top. So I went for two tones, firstly as I could not decide and secondly because i thought one was too dark and the other too light and secondly as I was unsure if I would need to.

I ended up using both and had the overambitious idea to create something obre-ish by using most of the darker tone on top and the lighter  in the ends. That did not work out quite as intended but I am overall happy with the result although there is still a slight green undertone. But I should be able to get rid of that when using a toner with a bit of a redish/warm undertone the next time. For now thoug I wanted to avoid killing off my hair completely by dyeing it again. I will leave it to recover for a few weeks before I’ll dye it once again.

Not Forever, But I Like It

Like usually I don’t think that this hair change is going to last forever but I do like it and I think I am going to stick with blonde for a while. What do you think about it? Do you like me as a blonde?

Still Looking For A Last Minute Plus-Size Valentines Outfit?

Valentines With List

If you are looking for last minute affordable plus-size valentines outfit then here is my oersonal plus size wish list coming to your rescue along with “last orders” information to make sure you still get your dream outfit in time.


What do you think? Do you have a favourite?

Last Orders?

In order to receive your last minute outfit in time for valentines you need to order by:

Asos
Next Day Delivery:  Friday 12.02. by 12pm, if you are willing to take some risk you might still be lucky if you order before 5pm on Saturday 13.02.

Missguided
Next Day Delivery: Friday 12.02. by 4pm
Sunday Delivery: Saturday 13.02 by 9pm

Boohoo
Weekend Delivery: Friday 12.02. by 8pm
Weekend Delivery: Saturday 13.03 by 7pm

Your Plans?

What are your plans for valentines day? Will you spend it with your loved one or go out with the girls, but most important, what will you be wearing?
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Xandres Xline at The House Of Fraser

I always love hearing about new plus size brands. So I was quite exited when the House Of Fraser contacted me with the great news that they will be stocking Xandres Xline.

Xandres Xline – A Plus Size Line Of A Beligian Design House

Xandres Xline is the plus size line of the belgian brand Xandres which is admittedly not one of the cheapest lables available but it does offer some interesting new pieces as their style is based on an overall classic style interspersed with some more subtle and some more statement trends but always remains timeless.

Obviously I am not a fan of every single piece and while some pieces are clearly targeted at a market a little older than myself they do seem to have managed to overall achieve a good balance between classic and fashion.

Here are some of my favourite pieces:

Xandres XLine Plus Size Range

 

Road Testing Xandres Xline with the House of Fraser

Amazingly the House Of Fraser offered me the chance to road test one of the pieces.  I was looking out for a piece that would allow me to benefit from the quality that I hoped for as well as the timelessness of the line and so I was looking for a piece that could work with many other outfits rather than one of their beautiful statement pieces. And in my case the best choice appeared to be a cardigan:

This is the beauty I chose:

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Yay or Nay?

The cardigan did not disappoint. The quality is amazing and I really love the colour.

The image does not any wear near live up to reality. The cardigan is a beautiful pastel turquois that is interwoven with some with some subtle silver shimmer. It goes wonderfully with my current obsession of blue hues and nude blush tones.

The quality of the piece also lives up to my from the price already rather high expectations. The downside of the quality though is that you will have to live with the little mither of handwashing it but the positive side is that it if you treat it will should give you many years of wearing a beautiful cardigan, that for once should not lose it’s shape or shine.

The Final Verdict?

Would I buy it myself? I have to admit…  Maybe not, with an original price of £109 it would simply lie out of my price range. Out of budget constraints I personally rather look to cheap and cheerful ranges at the moment.

Would I have invested the money into this piece though for this time, I do believe Iwould not  have been disappointed – I do believe you would get your money’s worth in quality and length of wear out of it – and at the moment the piece is also reduced to £54.90 and so are many of the other Xandres Xline pieces at the HoF at the moment. So if you like it, now is the the time to snap it up.

The literal bottom line is: If you  can afford it and like timeless pieces then I do believe Xandres Xline is a worthy Plus-Size designer brand to invest  in.

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