My last weekend was rather eventful. We had been invited to a wedding in Germany. So I took Friday and Monday off and we spent an long weekend in Germany.
Arriving in Germany after a very early 4am wake up and a somewhat delayed flight , I realised that I had forgotten an important part of my wedding guest outfit. There was no way round it – I had to go shopping. Although to be honest I guess I would have done that anyway.
On that day it was not exactly very hot, but warmer than here in the UK. Tired as I was I needed to wear something simple and comfortable, so I ditched a few insecurities & body complexes for the sake of comfort.
I ended up wearing one of my favourite dresses, a Lady Vintage tea dress. It is a shame that they don’t offer this type of dress any more in the larger sizes, otherwise I would probably own one in every pattern by now…
I combined the dress with some no frills accessories, my trekking sandals from Aldi, which was once again a comfort rather than a fashion choice and my very favourite oversized handbag which I picked up at a sample sale at work for very little money.
For a change I went completely sleeveless, showing one of my non favourite body areas, my upper arms. After I bound my hair in a pony tail, I also bound my fringe back, which I usually never do as I feel it makes my face look too round.
Despite all that I actually felt quite confident in this look. It was also the single most comfortable outfit to wear on a hot day to walk around a new city trying to find a shop that sells what I had forgotten at home. In hindsight I actually quite like what I was wearing.
I would love to say that I showed my upper arm fat, most of my legs etc. and nothing happened. However, unfortunately this was not quite the case.
Within the last minutes of walking back to the hotel, a couple drove past, weirdly pointing at me. They must then have parked round the corner and while they were walking past they were looking at me, in this typical obvious way of trying to look non obvious, they were clearly giggling about me. There was a time when that would have hit me hard. Nowadays I just don’t understand that behaviour any more.
Over the years I have learned that I can wear whatever I want and my happiness is definitely not dependent on what 1 or 2 random idiots on the street think is funny or not.
I have absolutely no idea what was going on in their heads. Especially given that they are usally not the most beautiful or “on trend” people either…
The bottom line is, there are idiots out there. There might be some people who can’t fit it in their tiny minds, that there are people that are different. However, this will not keep me from wearing what I like or from what I think is comfortable to me.
It is you that counts. The chances are that for each idiot out there, there are most likely many that either like what you wear or could not care less what you wear as long as you feel comfortable in it.
So I will continue to wear what I like and be who I am, and if I feel like it, I will present my arm fat. If somebody could explain to me what the heck is going on in these people’s little minds, please let me know…