You Are Too Young To Wear A Bikini
For quite a long time I was mad with my mother, as to me she was the reason why I never got to wear a bikini…. What happened was, I had been given by someone a used bikini when I must have been around 6 but my mum did not allow me to wear it. She thought I was too young to wear one, as she believed a bikini is a piece of clothing sexualising the wearer and this would have been a bit too early for me.
You Are Too Fat To Wear A Bikini
Ultimately she was probably right with this. (I believe I was about 7 or so). Why I still ended up a little mad with her about this, was that once I was actually old enough to wear a bikini, I now felt myself that I was unable to wear a bikini.
Now it was society that had been successful in letting me believe that I was not allowed to wear a bikini, as I was by far too fat. What made it worse, the way it looked that was not going to change soon. Ultimately I had missed “my one chance” that I had. So this is how I ended up for a long time half jokingly blaming my mother for never ever going to be able to wear a bikini.
I Am Not Too “Anything”! I Will Wear A Bikini!
This all changed last year. Now the plus-size movement had come along, by now I had become a plus-size blogger and tried all sorts of “crazy things” like wearing a jumpsuit or showing bare my shoulders (#shock, #horror) Gabi Fresh had started the #fatkini movement and in a weird moment of “what the hell” I decided to order and try a bikini. And that is when everything changed.
I stumbled across a so called swim bra, which is what it says on the tin. A proper bra, holding everything in place and pushing it up made of swimwear fabric. Combine that with a nice high waist bikini bottom and you have the perfect beginners plus-size bikini. The first step to getting used to it. Bottom line: This was a lot more flattering than a lot of swimsuits or tankinis I had tried over the years I loved it as soon as I put it on.
Long live the #Fatkini
The underwired Elomi swimbra is really absolutely amazing and the best piece of swimwear I have ever owned. It gives amazing support, giving your bust the perfect support and the multistraps give you a bit of variability It gives such great hold you can even take the straps off and wear it as a bandeau bikini top.
The super high waisted Mary of Sweden bikini bottom which are not only giving the whole set a nice vintage look, it is also a great way of easing your way into the world of bikinis without having to expose too much of your tummy all at once if you are not ready for that yet.
So ultimately my very first bikini was still very plain, simply being black, nothing too flashy. But you have to ease your way into it somehow. So after I had hit the local pool a few times and nobody had run away screaming due to seeing my plus size bod in a bikini I got a bit bolder and decided I wanted to go for a bit more colour. Well it ended up a lot more colour as that was the time when also my rather drastic hair change happened.
This lovely specimen of a #Simplybekini sports an absolutely lovely tropical print and still gives your boobs a really great amount of hold, not as much as the Elomi swim bra, but costing only £12.50 it is way cheaper than the Elomi top. At the time I bought this lovely set at Simply Be, however they do not appear to offer it anymore so,while you can still buy the top at JD Williams, the bottoms appear not to be available anymore. But you can easily mix and match. I actually myself like to wear the top combined with a black bottom and the other way round. I am a big fan of mix & match Bikinis.
A Lot More Choice Lead To A Massive Obsession
Well anyway, this is how the obsession started. Since then and particularly now that the Summer has come and we are in the middle of the Swimwear & Bikini Season, I find myself quite obsessively browsing plus-size bikinis.Since last year the choice has grown massively.Last year it was pretty much Gabi Fresh’s original #Fatkinis at Swimsuitsforall which notoriously appeared to be sold out or Simply Be. Now it is not anymore only the usual plus-size retailers that might have 2 or 3 bikini sets if you are lucky, now a lot more regular retailers like Asos, Boohoo, Missguided and Forever21 have entered the plus-size bikini scene.
The scene is going into the right direction I am loving my Bikinis, and nobody will tell me again I can’t wear one. I am loving the new availability of Plus-Size Bikinis, the only issue this is neither helping my issue with being really bad with choice (you won’t want to go to a restaurant with me if there is a too large menu…) nor is it helping my wallet… I guess though I can live with that.
Ultimately my message is and stays. Don’t let anyone tell you, you can’t wear a bikini because you are to fat. Go and get your Bikini!
Lot’s of love