When it comes to my appearance & weight I have so often heard things like “Just put the pizza down and skip the donuts for once” often unsolicited…. So many people seem to find it hard to believe that I am not stuffing my face 24/7 with junk food ordering 4 take aways a day after having a full fried breakfast until they actually spent some proper time with me and see what I eat.
Many larger people out there actually have much healthier diets than you might think, eating quite well and with pretty healthy food (maybe a *little* too much of it, though). And no this is no “diet food shop” – this is ‘normal food’ & a pretty regular shop for me.
I, like many others, have gotten big by serial dieting, each time putting on a little more and each time wrecking my metabolism a little more. 20 years of guilt and weight fluctuations have messed with my head, metabolism, self-esteem and body as a whole.
So I have decided to skip the diets and try to live every day being the best & healthiest version of myself that I can be today, eating well, exercising & sleeping more. If that leads to weight loss great but should nothing happen I would still love my body just as much!
This is what body positivity and health at any size truly are about. Focusing on health & not size. Doing for your health what you can, not postponing “living” and “being worthy” till you have reached that magical number on your scale. Something so many of us have done, watching life pass us by while hating ourselves
Live now! Eat well! Move your body! Sleep well and a lot! And most importantly love yourself! And take care of yourself!
I would love to hear your opinion. Let me know what you think. I would also love to hear if you have made any similar experiences? How do you deal with it?
Recently Bustle shared a selection of 35 amazing plus-size women proving that the latest trends are not just for straight sizes but also can be rocked by larger women. I am more than flattered to say that I happend to be one of those women selected by Bustle. This is just a great compliment to be mentioned amongst so many amazing plus-size bloggers and body positivity influencers.
These 34 influencers (plus me) share their favourite trend of the season with you and why they love these trend. If you were wondering what exactly this season’s trends are, check out this gallery.
I always love hearing more about more why and how people choose the styles they do, especially when it is from influencers like those featured here.
Reasons to choose a style can be as banal as just the love of a colour or it can be something as dear to ourselves as challenging yourself to a style that scares you, challenging yourself and your own confidence.
My Autumn OOTD & Why I Love It
The autumn style that I went for, is the stunning dress out of the Holly Hagan range by Want That Trend that I recently bought at the Curve Fashion Festival. Next to the beautiful maxi style the dress is sparkling with beautiful sparkly metal detailing. And if you know me I love metallics, glitter & sparkles in any way, shape or form.
The reason why I love metallics and metallic detailing is that you can still make them work for most occasions while sequins can easily look over the top. With metallics being one of the main trends this autumn I will indulge this season in the metal detail trend as much as I can.
I hid myself for so long only wearing subdued colours and baggy clothes because of low self-esteem and thinking that is what I had to do being fat. This is why I now enjoy wearing some glitter even more. Ultimately I have a lot of catching up to do on bold colours, patterns & especially sparkles.
Did you know that every October Buy British Day takes place? A day celebrating British manufacturing and supporting local businesses. Today might not be the exact day but I still thought it would be great to join in.
So today I want to share a short selection of local plus-size clothing & accessories businesses most of which do not only offer great quality but also allow you to submit your own measurements and customise your products.
Silly Old Seadog
Silly Old Seadog is an amazing company. Not only is it UK based and producing unique and quirky vintage fashion, but their stunning vintage dresses are also handmade and they are one of the few places that do not distinguish between straight and plus sized.
Their inclusive range spans from size 6-24 and also offering dresses made to your custom measurements. And as the final cherry on top they use different body types of models to showcase their fashion on their site.
Lady Vintage is another UK based company offering vintage style clothes all of which are made in London. Their main line of clothing is available in the sizes 8-22 while their plus-size range Lady Voluptuous comes in the sizes 16-32.
Lindy Bop is the 3rd Vintage reproduction company in this list and while the majority of their clothes are made internationally they also do have a range of British made clothes which they offer in their subsection Made In Britain
Kenickys Fancy Dress
With Halloween coming up Kenickys Fancy Dress more or less have to be part of this list. They are a current internet find, so unfortunately, I cannot give you any first hand information regarding the quality, however what you can find online is promising.
Kenickys Fancy Dress is a company based in Coventry and they offer a wide range of different costumes from decade based costumes to fairy tales, Halloween, uniforms & much more. you can also submit your very own costume idea and they will do what they can to turn your idea into reality. The costumes are handmade and come in amazing size range. All handmade costumes are available in sizes 8-40 and not only that you can also have your costume made to your own measurements. Buying a costume here is the closest you are going to get to making your costume yourself.
As a word of warning – make sure to order in time. As the costumes are custom made for you, you will have to allow time for them to make your costume. They recommend ordering at least 10 working days ahead of time. So if you want to wear a costume from Kenickys Fancy Dress make sure you order soon.
Trakke is a Scottish company born out of the love of the outdoors and the love for design and quality. Trakke believe that a bag should be made to last a lifetime.
All of their bags are handmade in their stylish workshop in the heart of Glasgow. They are designed to be practical with many useful gadgets and pockets and also to be functional and comfortable. I do have myself one of their bags and I would not exchange my Wee Lug Messenger Bag for anything.
Black Heart Creatives is a blogger gone statement jewlery business that offers unique laser cut acrylic statement jewellery. The pieces are full of kitsch, glitter or sass depending what you are looking for.
There is the fat bitch/babe collection celebrating plus-size women in an in your face way, the palm bling collection taking palms and pineapples to the kitschiest max, the live fast and die yum which is fast food jewellery the pop art way and a lot more timeless and seasonal collections like pop art portraits and the Halloween range etc. Not to forget that you can choose between all sorts of colours for your unique jewellery piece and there is also the custom option which allows you to create your own necklace or earring sporting your own custom statement chosen by you.
Definitely worth checking out. If you like a statement jewellery piece in you collection there is absolutely no way around Black Heart Creatives.
Any More Great Local Businesses?
Do you know a great local business that is worth supporting? Or are you maybe running a small business? Let me know in the comments and I will put them together in a follow up post.
I have always struggled to find good plus-size sportswear. I only new of very few places to look and what was available was either far too expensive or boring and unshapely. SimplyBe and their sportswear section was pretty much the only place where I was able to find a few things.
As I have recently started to try working on a more active life I started to keep my eyes more open if I can not find here or there a few unexpected gems and in fact I came across one of those gems while going shopping for food.
Asda – Plus-Size Up To A Size 24
I keep forgetting that Asda’s George does do plus-size clothes, at least up to a size 24. So when I was recently changing up my shopping routine I came across this pink hashtag themed shirt. I real gem to find.
Althoug at the moment they unfortunately not have any sportswear. At the moment they only have swimwear although keeping the plus-size sections to swimsuits, not offering any bikinis. I guess think though it will definately worth keeping an eye out as I am sure they will have some nice gym wear here and there.
The trousers are from another one of my recent discoveries for great plus-size exercise clothes, H&M Sportswear. The trousers I wear in the picture are unfortunately sold out by now but they do have some other great things still in their offering at the moment
Although I still have to find the right size for me. I am somewhere between a size 24 and a size 26. I have multiple versions of these trousers in multiple sizes as I really like them. H&M goes up to a size 3xl, I usually wear a size 2xl in other clothes but for these trousers 2xl appears a little small and 3xl appears a little wide, but unfortunately I do have the issue with the slowly sliding sports trousers with most of them, either due to them being too small. I hope that with maybe toning up a little bit or maybe by losing a little weight that the 2xl will end up to fit even better over time.
Top – Asda
Bottoms – H&M
Trainers – Asics
What Do You Think?
Do also have the same problem of the sliding sports trousers when you run or exercise in general? Have you found the solution or perfect trousers to solve the problem?
Where do you buy your sportswear or now of any other places that are hidden gems for plus size sports-wear?
Up till now my blog has centered mainly around fashion, body positivity and self love with the occasional beauty post sprinkled in, going forward I am going to add a new section to the blog: #HealthyCurves.
From the runway to the Sports Illustrated Swimwear Issue, we plus size ladies have by now conquered so many domains. The gym-scene however is still one of the main areas where we lack visibility.
The result of this is unfortunately quite often that plus-size individuals are afraid of going to gym, scared of standing out, being stared at or maybe even being ridiculed. I myself have suffered from that in the past and still find myself once in a while looking around when I am at the gym.
Time For Us To Conquer The Gym
It is time for fat women exercising to be more visible making the sight of us in the gym a lot more normal – we need to conquer the gym and flaunt our curves proudly, showing off that we are fat and fit or at least fat and working on it.
Body Positivity – Loving Yourself To Make Healthier Choices
But this is about more than being confident enough to wear a gym outfit and to conquer your fear of being stared at. This is about loving yourself enough, to make healthy choices for yourself.
The issue is that most of us, if and when we were going to the gym, focus most of the time so much on weight that we end up failing so often, ending up in a never ending spiral, hating ourselves.Rather than focussing on weight, like I too used to do for so long, we should be focussing on making healthy choices every day, being the healthiest self we can be that day, just a day at a time. If it means that we are losing weight or not.
If we are stubbornly chasing a weight that is difficult for us to reach, it will most likely lead to us being a lot less healthy, either by us following unhealthy fad diets which do not only lead to bad nutrition but in most cases also to yo-yoing, in the worst case it might lead to eating disorders or other mental illnesses and finally in most cases it will lead to simple plain unhappiness which is practically guaranteed by chasing an in many cases unattainable number, or at least unattainable in the short time we give us.
Torturing ourselves like that is often even unnecessary. While I am pretty sure no one will argue that weight does not have an influence on health. The idea of how thin we actually have to be to be healthier is also over-estimated. Not everybody is made to reach a size 8. To be healthy it is important to listen to our own bodies, however, to do this it is important that we are honest with ourselves.
My Story & Relationship With My Own Body And Fitness
I myself had to make theses experiences myself in a quite painful way. I have yo-yoed around most of my life going from crash diet to crash diet most of the time following a self-hating low till a few years back I decided that it was finally time to follow through and make the big chang, become a new person.
I was convinced this time I would make it and this time, I would make it to make the long-term change, a lifestyle change not a diet. I put all my effort in it for a very long time and over the time of more than 1.5 years I lost 30 kilos (ca 5 stone) slimmed down to a size 18 and even ran a half marathon. I was so proud of myself.
Then I hit the wall, the weight did not want to budge further, but my BMI still called me obese, I still bought my clothes in plus size shops and society still called me fat?! What to do? I kept and kept trying, counted my calories, exercised obsessively, struck more and more foods out of my diet but still the weight did not budge. There it was again, that anger with myself…
At that time I did not have the confidence I have now, I still thought I was fat and ugly. I completely missed how great my body felt, that all tests said I was fit and healthy that I without issue was able to run 10kilometers. I look amazing now and looking back I now know I looked amazing then, but all I could see was that my clothes still said plus-size, that despite all blood and heart tests saying healthy the BMI chart still said obese. The official classification and the german society still called me fat. And so at some point, I gave up hope and the inevitable happened and I ended up unhappy and annoyed with myself and ended up gaining everything backover time.
Self-hate is not a good motivator. I am very very happy that after coming to the uk I stumbled across the body positivity movement who taught me that my self-worth is not tied to my weight. It took me a long time but now I love myself and my body and know that I am fucking beautiful.
Unfortunately however after I always used to be fairly fit more weight I have recently noticed that I am by far too quick out of breath and I have also picked up some lower back pain and the occassional early pain in my right knee – the typical weight issues. There is no way round it if I want to tackle that pain and make sure that knee stays healthy I need to tackle that gym and work on my health and this is a journey I would like to share with you and also want to use as an opportunity to as a fat woman be as visible as possible going to the gym and also beating my own residual phobias.
Love Yourself & Be Our Healthiest Self Every Single Day
The best we can do for ourselves is love ourselves and realise that we are beautiful and worthy as we are and do every day the best for ourselves and our body. Ultimately this will lead to our healthiesst self – should this in each individuals case mean losing weight or not.
This is ultimately what I am going to be working on and will try to convey via my new #HealthyCurves posts. I am by no means planning in turning this into a dietblog in any way shape or form, but from now on you can look forward to hopefully being able to me on my way back to an even happier, healthier self.
Where do you stand when it comes to fitness? Are you a fitness fan or do you go nowhere near a gym? What is your favourite sport or fitness routine? What is the one fitness/self worth tip you would like to give to your younger self? I would love to hear from you?
They are a long running local Manchester Charity who is very passionate about supporting young people and are very aware of the challenges that particularly young girls face and are doing their best to help top equip them for these challenges.
In their weekly Young Women’s Night, they are welcoming young women for canoeing, games, discussions, food & workshops addressing important topics like body positivity & beauty, self-love & self-esteem as well as topics like love, drugs & bullying & many other challenges they face in their everyday lives.
Their strong passion for helping girls does not mean that there is nothing for boys. Every Thursday they hold a Youth club which provides a variety activities (including canoeing). There is also a coffee bar area where young people can relax with friends and chat to Youth Workers.” And every Sunday the welcome boys and girls of the ages 8 to 14 for canoeing, water play and adventure, music and art projects.
My Taster Canoe Session
For our taster session in the Aquatics Center we were first kitted out with a life-vest and given a short crash course in paddling and how to hold our balance and then it was already time to hit the water.
It was great fun, once the immediate fear of toppling over was under control and it does take only a few minutes till you gain basic control and get fairly stable. The last time I went paddling was about 15 years ago with school when I was about 15, so I am far from being an expert here. Only five minutes in I was doing rounds around the pool as if it was second nature and it was real fun.
It obviously is a great workout for the arms due to the paddling but this is not the only benefit. It is also, without you explicitly noticing, a great core workout as you constantly engage your core to maintain the balance. So this sport is a great alternative to the rather boring and generally loathed sit-ups.
Canoeing – Worth Giving It A Try
I can only recommend giving canoeing a try. Just have a google I am sure you will find a club that will offer canoeing in your region. And you do not need to worry not to fit into the canoe or life vest. I am a size 26 and the vest did fit with a lot of space and the canoe was very roomy, but in case you are still worried just give the group in your region a call. They will understand and look forward to meeting you and be more than happy to help you out.
Check Out The Water Adventure Centre
Should you live in the Manchester region and be yourself in the age relevant to the Water Adventure Centre groups or have family in the relevant age you should definitely give them a try or suggest it to your kids / nieces / sisters / grandkids / cousins. Have a look at their website here
Do you any great local body positive charities? Have you ever tried canoeing? What is your favorite watersport?