Last night just after midnight I once again checked Qwertee the geeky t-shirt supplier I posted about a while back like I sporadically do. I should really learn not to do that when I cannot really afford to buy any additional clothing.
If you are not familiar with Qwertee, let me explain the issue quickly to you. Qwertee offers awesome and very creative geeky shirts. So far so good. The real trouble is they offer them only for one day. Every day they have a new set of shirts but they are only available for 24 hours and then pouf gone (FAQ Here).
Oh How I Wish You Could Be Mine
And today they do not only have 1 of them but 3…
For The Firefly Fan-Girl In Me
For The Doctor Who Lover In Me
For the Maths Geek & Lord Of The Rings Reader In Me
Lessons To Be Learnt
There are also some other ones, so if you are as geeky inclined as I am and have a little more money than I have, it might be worth to give it a look. You can also check the “previous shirts” if you would like to see what else they have done as well as vote on the designs you would like to see soon. However, if you are broke as me, stay away. One thing I still have to learn.
Although while we are talking about “things to learn” it would be nice if Qwertee would offer some larger ladies style shirts, but till then the men shirts will do and have done fine. If you would like to see how they fit you can check out my OOTD featuring the Minion shirt.
What Do You Think
I would love to know what your “geeky pleasure” is. Is there a shirt that you could not resist?
This summer I am a little broke… So unfortunately there was no way I could have done any big summer clothes hauls. Over the whole summer I was watching with This summer I am a little broke… So unfortunately there was no way I could have done any big summer clothes hauls.
A Bit Jealous Of The Colourful New Wardrobes
Over the whole summer I was watching other fashion bloggerswith a slight sense of jealousy how they were showing off their lovely summer dresses. I am particularly jealous my newest blogger crush and discovery Boardroom Blonde. Just look at how colourful and bright her wardrobe is:
Woohoo – A Mini Haul Is Possible
So I was very, very happy when I once again was online window shopping when Boohoo came to the rescue. Boohoo in general offers very, very affordable clothing that even their plus size section does really deserve the label fast fashion, unlike the plus size section of some other retailers..
Bargains In The Summer Essential Section
A lot of their Summer Essentials section is currently up to 60% reduced and there are some real bargains in there.
There are also lot’s of other lovely pieces in the sale that I unfortunately had to leave behind, next to some lovely full price jumpsuits. Too many to all call them out. Just check them here. One last piece of the sale I still want to mention specifically is this dip back top (black/white/grey), as will be a central piece of an upcoming OOTD that will be live very soon. I still bought this at full price during the time I was offline you are now able to get this instead for £16 for £10.
The clothes might not be quite as colourful as Boardroom Blondes amazing wardrobe but I am still so, so looking forward to this little parcel arriving. There is just no better feeling than a bargain ;).
Always Worth To Have A Browse
This find is also once again proof that it at times can be worth to have a quick browse online or instore even if you expect not to find anything in your price range and boohoo is always a good place for a bargain. Debz recently also has written an interesting post about an unexpected New Look bargain on the high street…
End Of Summer Sales Everywhere
So if you are skint like me at the moment, now is the time to have a good window shop as all the other usual retailers will right now run their end of summer sales or run a sale on their new season pieces to start to push those. So wherever you go boohoo, new look, asos, missguided or any other fast fashion low(ish) price retailer you will have a good chance to make a bargain. My asos summer sale wish list in fact is endless. If there is ever time for a bargain it is now and the boohoo sale is a great place to find one.
What Do You Think?
Have you come across a great bargain? Where and what did you get? Do you have a new blogger crush that we should not miss out on? Please drop me a comment below.
Despite the title, no I have not gotten engaged. However, I recently got a little bit of a feel of how it is to wear a set of precious Diamonds at a lovely little jeweller at Victoria Highfields.
I Am A Little Scared Of Diamond Rings…
I am usually not the jeweller and diamond type of girl. To be honest, I rarely wear any jewellery above the price of £20, simply because I would be terrified of losing it. I still do have the appreciation for beautiful diamond jewellery. And this place has some lovely things to look at for anyone with an appreciation for diamonds
In fact we were able to try some absolutely stunning pieces on, pieces that are very unlikely to ever grace my finger in real life as I would be more than mortified of losing them. Each of them was at least worth the equivalent of a small to mid-range car on my finger, being German this is an accepted way of estimating value.
Unfortunately none of these beautiful pieces did fit on my rather large fingers. The good news is that they do these pieces on a bespoke pieces so even if you have somewhat fat fingers like mine, they will make for you, the exact ring you imagined for you.I was told if you want you can even bring the stones in yourself if you want to save some money or want to give a stone from a family heirloom a new life.
I Finally Found Out My Ring Size
I had a good chat with one of their staff and got some advice on what ring size to wear. Apparently I measure a Y, but this is not where the advice ended because there is more to it than just measuring. Which ring size you buy also depends a bit on the type of ring. For a thicker ring you will probably get away with a larger size than for a smaller ring. The rule of thumb is a ring should slide on, but always wiggle off.
If you also have no clue what your ring size is and always just buy whatever fits you in the cheap store you went to like I always did: here is link to the Victoria Highfield ring size tool that will help you to find out your size – all you need is a ring that fits you well and a printer. Although for ring fitting it will always be best to visit your local jeweller. I guess rings are also a little bit like bras, because one fits you does not mean that all in that size fit you. Ultimately it will be best to try them on.
Despite Expectation: I Did Not Feel Out Of Place
Jewellers really were and are not one of my usual habitats … But having had a closer look at one I have to say I have been positively surprised. It does not always have to be cheap fashion jewellery from fashion retailers. I had a good look at all the displays and there were some beautiful and actually affordable gems (see what I did there… erm sorry that was a bad one).
I guess spending a few pounds more, can get some lovely and a lot longer lasting jewellery than you can get from your usual retailer. I would encourage you to have a quick browse at your local jeweller, it is at least worth a look.
Giving My Beautiful Family Heirlooms A New Life
I think I might actually very soon be paying Victoria Highfield another visit fairly soon. I have now for quite a while some lovely rings lying around that I have inherited from my grandmother, that I have not done with much more than staring at, as they are far too small for me.
These rings aren’t worth much in money, however they are to me. They are basically all the physical memories I have left of my grandmother and it would be amazing to be able to wear them. I am sure Victoria Highfield will do a great job with these 3 lovely family heirlooms giving them another life, beiing worn by another generation.
She Practically Never Took The Gold One Off…
I am so so looking forward to wearing this pieces. Particularly the gold ring with the large stone is absolutely stunning to me. I have been told that was also the ring that she wore the most and practically never took of. I do like to think back to the memories I have with my grandmother, unfortunately they are few as she unfortunately died when I was 5. It will be great to be able to wear a piece of my family and it’s history.
Far To Valuable To Be Locked Away
I would encourage you to have a look to your drawers at home or ask your parents if there is any family jewellery that was just locked away in a box. Those pieces of memory are far to valuable to be locked away.
I have not posted since my last rant when instagram banned the hashtag curvy in mid July. There was the occasional tweet or instagram post, but my blog remained quiet for more than a month after my blogging schedule had been a little erratic for a while already. In the blog world this is basically an eternity and for the google algorithm basically unforgivable, however sometimes, if planned or not and no matter how much I love this blog, live will have to take priority.
Blogging – Not Quite As Glamorous As It Often seems
Most of us bloggers do unfortunately not have the seemingly glamorous lives that our blogs like to make you believe we have. The reality for most of us that next to the blog, we do have a day job, which for most of us is a full time job. Obviously we do also have usual other responsibilities , like looking after the household and garden etc. Responsibilities that everybody has.
Well, And Then Things Happen…
While all of us are busy enough with life just as it is sometimes fate likes to throws some additional things in our life, like a change of career plans, a new project opportunity that needs work & time, a personal health issu or a responsibility for a relative, loved one or friend that for whatever reason might need our support for some time.
We Are Redacting Our Lives For The Online World
All of these responsibilities and life’s little issues are often easily forgotten over the blogposts that show the happiest and most glamorous parts of our lives. We all like to do this. It would be amazing if all of our lives would be as fabulous as they look on facebook or instagram. It is also so easily forgotten how much time blogging can take, at times it feels like a second full time job.
Sometimes We Just Need To Take The Time
Sometimes, a hobby no matter how much love we have for it, has to be put on hold and we just really need to take the time for ourselves and our loved ones.
For now I do not want to go deeper into details why exactly I had to take this break. Generally I am very happy to share a very large part of my life with you here and am always happy to answer your questions but I believe some things should remain private. So I am very sorry for not having been around for the last few weeks,just let me tell you, I needed this time.
But now I am back! I am busy working away on catching up on a few things that have happened over the last few weeks and also have a few new projects in the works. What I am looking the most forward to though is meeting you all at the Curve Fashion Festival in Manchester this September.
Ok girls it is time for another rant. I know I am ranting quite a lot here recently but there is just every other day some thoughtless body shaming or other stupidity going on. So recently I just really have to vent… a lot.
Its Instagram, Again
So what has happened this time? This time it’s Instagram, again. After banning the female nipple, pubic hair peeking our of a bathing suit, women on their period and not to forget being one of the breastfeeding nazis (read more here). Not to forget to time and again take down bra selfies of women above a size 10 while those of skinny women are fine. It is now shame to get shame people based on their bodies once again, as they have now put the word #curvy on their blacklist, which will not allow you to search for this hashtag anymore.
So when you as a larger lady post your next cute outfit on Instagram you might need to reconsider what hashtag you want to use if you would like to enable people to find you… Words you can choose now I guess are:
By the way #fatf*** also still works, in case you would like to use thatLovely isn’t it?
Why #Curvy Matters For Plus Positivity
But let’s be honest most terms have very negative connotations. The word curvy is a word that finally was a positive word, a word that enabled someone that will have struggled with a very negative body image for a long time finally to start looking at themselves in a more positive light
The debate of what to call your body type when you have a few more kilos on you has been going on for quite a while. And admittedly some #curvy women might be a little more round or boxy and some people really get weirdly angry about people that do not sport a traditional hourglass shape and call themselves curvy.
Does this really matter so much to the rest of the world that the word curvy is getting a second definition if it helps a fair amount of people gain a better and more loving self image. While I personally have made my peace with the word fat and have no problem calling myself a fatty at times, it is still hurtful for many. I am sure the word curvy will have contributed to giving a lot of women out there a positive self image, they can identify with.
Official Reason For Ban – Nudity
So why have they banned it. A spokesperson from Instagram apparently stated that a lot of the images tagged with the hashtag #curvy contained a lot of nudity.
Just the fact that a lot of the images that contained this hashtag apparently also contained a lot of nudity to blanket ban it, while a lot insulting and bullying terms can still readily be used by the trolls out there to put people down, that is just not a jhourglassshapeustification and a completely wrong approach.
This Is What Instagram Still Allows
So let’s have a look at what Instagram in it’s endevour to reduce nudity still allows: like #dildo, #sextoys, #asses, #pornos, #bigfatass, #titsandass and #pornstargay, these are fine but #curvy clearly has to go.
Next to these sexual terms Instagram also allows you to search for an array of negative and insulting terms regarding overweight that are not only containing a lot of nudity (depending on the specific term in question) but also are used to bully people some examples are #obese, #fatf***, #fatbitch and #fatpig. Yay for Instagrams priorities.
So now let’s have a look at what happens on the other side of the weight range, ins specific: what happens when you search for keywords like skinny or thin. Shouldn’t those attract pretty much the same type of pictures and shouldn’t Instagram react in the exact same way here? Well yes to question 1 (some nudity here as well) but a big fat no to question 2.
Instagram obviously is aware that that these pictures are containing an amount of nudity as they warn you when you when you click on the hashtag that the results contain graphic content, so they are aware of the nudity here. However these terms along with other searchable terms like #ana and #mia are known trigger terms for eating disorders, which Instagram also seems to be aware off and solves with a link to an eating disorder site, but you can still go through and admire the thigh gaps and see all the images of self harm, diet tips and food diaries.
So bottom line is they do allow sexual terms, derogatory terms all aspects of the other side of the weight range, despite being aware with all the issues connected with those terms, while a term that has had body positive effects for so many people gets straight away banned? Wait can somebody please explain that for me? I am not sure I understand their logic.
Why Not The Same Type Of Warning?
For some clarification. I am not asking to ban keywords like skinny, but rather ask for same treatment for the word curvy. Couldn’t they have slapped another one of those content warnings on it? If you like even with a link to a nutrition page for help with weight issues if someone at Instagram is worried about the health of the posters.
Not sure about their agendy
The bottom line is, I am not quite sure what their agenda is here. I can’t believe that the ultimate goal was to decrease nude pictures and their accessibility. Firstly because of all the offensive terms out there that I can’t believe they have not approached before this one but mainly because there is a very simple and targeted solution if they really wanted to target nude pictures.
If It Is About Nudity Why Not Use Nudity Detection Software?
Monitor the keyword with a program scanning for images containing nudity would be the perfect solution… Captain Obvious. Yes these programs do exist, they were made to speed up checking computers of suspects for illegal pornography and the way they work is scanning images for flesh tones (a little more complicated but that is the bottom line). These programs are so good, they can do this even for black and white pictures.
Apply this, with a few employees who check the pictures that it spits out as blocked. If you want to go with even less effort directly block the images or warn the users that their image is going to be blocked within a few hours if they don’t submit it for a review and boom only those are are submitted for being falsely detected need to be reviewd even more time saved. There you go, a fairly non complicated and targeted solution found.
An Alternative Movement Is Already There
Luckily the body positive movement is alive and well and there is already a protest movement forming within Instagram that have come up with an alternative term. So you don’t need to use the words from the list above, use the tag #curvee. There are already more than 500 images with this tag and they are getting more by the minute.
What Do You Think
So what do you think about the #curvy search ban? What do you think about Instagrams approach and will you miss the term or do you think it won’t make a big difference? I would love to hear from you.
Ok everyone it is time to get your fashion rule book out again. The all encompassing fashion authority has spoken again. I mean I don’t really know who that is but the Oprah magazine sure does. How otherwise could they have given such definitive and clear fashion “advice”.
I guess you are now most likely sitting at the edge of your chair, with a sharpened pencil ready to add rule number 5,387 to your “Fashion For Fatties” rule book, right after the rule “Touching thighs are not acceptable”. So here it is:
You fatty should never, ever, ever so far as to consider wearing a crop top.
What The Magazine Really Said – But It Is Not Much Better
The Oprah Magazine (O Magazine), you remember Oprah – that woman that is usually all about empowerment, has published some fashion advice that is so negative it still baffles me hours later and that even though I have come across my fair share of outrageous fashion rules & tips in my time blogging.
The advice that is outraging the internet and me was an answer to the question “can I pull off a crop top?” Brace yourself for the actual “fashion rule” that was given as answer. “If (and only if!) you have a flat stomach feel free to try one.” Seriously? I almost fell of my chair.
The message is bad enough body shaming. We do see this sort of thing every day, what is particularly baffling about this one is not only in what magazine it was found but even worse how it was written. I am still not over the text in brackets and the exclamation mark.
This Is How Much I Care
Well thank you Oprah for this well meant advice. I will consider it, keep it in mind and do with it what I do with a lot of the before mentioned 5,387 rules in the “Fashion Rules For Fatties” Rule book, happily ignore it and to celebrate the day by getting my everything but flat size 24 stomach out.
I have to admit that despite all the body confidence progress that I have made since I have started blogging, thanks to trying so many things, daring to wear crop tops was still a pretty big thing for me.
You might think now, hey she recently raved about how much she loves bikinis, you are showing loads more skin when wearing a bikini, why is should this now be a problem. Well this is the thing with confidence, it is not always logical. And not only that, when wearing a bikini you usually go swimming, not to town or in a bar, people expect to see some sort of larger degree of bare skin which makes it a bit simpler. Crop tops are still partially one of the taboos for plus size ladies.
I did even leave the house wearing a crop top
Well ultimately I did dare to go outside in this crop top. And once again not dissimilar to when I wore the bikini, the world still turned and no-one was pointing with fingers at me. I wore this outfit (with less ankle braking heels) out to a work do and ended up getting so many compliments. Initially I left the house with a simple black kimono over this, so that I did not feel quite so naked and could cover up if I felt uncomfortable, but no need for that. 20 minutes into the work party that cardigan lay somewhere in a corner and me and my non flat belly were rocking the dance floor in my crop top.
Internet Do Your Thing – #Rockthecrop
Other than that, the internet has done what it does and exploded with outrage. Lots of amazing women of varying degrees of not flat stomach have shared fabulous pictures of themselves online. It is definately worth checking out the the hashtag #rockthecrop. Here is a selection of a few, but check it out yourself. 🙂
So either that was now a big ploy of the O Magazine to kick us all into “Hell No”-Mode and make us all wear crop tops in defiance or they are just the idiots they appear to be and they just gave a lot of women out there another set of body issues they should not have to worry about. Go get yourself a crop top!
I would love to see your favourite crop tops: Tweet a picture @GirlGeek85. #rockthecrop Lots of love